Thanks to Vimala Ghadyaram's (writer of this post)...for giving me chance to publish nice stuff..
Good friends enrich our lives in so many ways. Through a magical combination of similarities and differences, friends offer us the opportunity to know ourselves as we are and help us grow into who we want to be. Our similarities attract us to each other, comforting us with familiarity when we see ourselves in them. When we are drawn to those we admire, the same recognition is at work, unconsciously acknowledging that these people possess qualities that we ourselves possess. By acting as mirrors, friends help us define who we are by reflecting our selves back to us.
Friends also help us know ourselves through our differences. Differences allow us to see other options and make choices about who we want to be. Sometimes we are drawn to those who appear to be our opposites, and we learn to accept the parts of them we love and the parts of them that don't resonate with us, thus allowing us a valuable learning experience. By expanding our understanding to include others-- experiences, friends help us accept others. By understanding when someone's life differs from our own, we can learn about ourselves in contrast. There are times when we see in friends what we don't like about ourselves. That mirror reflection may be hard to take, but a good friend helps us find ways we can change and supports us in that choice.
Part of the joy of friendship is the feeling that we are accepted just the way we are, with no need to change. It is a gift they give us, and one we can give back every day. Ultimately, we choose friends because they make us feel good about ourselves and life. Through tears and difficulties, friends help us find the laughter. When we find those special people who offer us that perfect combination of comfort and stimulus to grow, we are very fortunate. Friends, those wonderful companions that walk with us through life, help us define and refine who we are and who we choose to be every day.
No matter what the ups and downs of life , we share and care for each other , keeping the bond that ties us as friends. Being true and honest to at least ONE person in life can really make us grow to the positive extent which we cannot imagine. It is a good feeling born inside. True , real friends are the one's who accepts us even when we are at failure ! No one is perfect , thus true friends are the ones who accept us for our wrong doings , ups and downs , always be there to make the change in our life. This is why we tend to share many unsaid secrets with a best friend rather than our own parents and siblings ! It is a total bliss to have such friends who make a difference in our life ! It is even more a blessing when our own parents are in a stage of being our best friends !
How do we keep that good relationship with friends ? It's so easy , just by being honest to oneself !!! With integrity we will develop a much better relationship with ourselves. Problem arises when most people lack integrity , deny reality and lie to themselves ! The best way to deal ? - Confront your fears and never give in.
To have integrity means that you are an honest , moral and ethical person. Integrity and character therefore go hand in hand , it's the utmost first relationship with one's ownself ! Once we have integrity and live a life that is aligned with truest values and ideals , only then we will experience real happiness and satisfaction in life.
Most people are dishonest to themselves and go to a great expense to protect themselves from reality around them by lying , manipulating. Obviously we can see these things happening in the current techno age , many people hang into chat rooms with full of lies , forgetting the real essence of life. What is the need to hang into the box of system which in return gives only fake satisfaction ? Lies after lies , not only one cheats him/herself but to the public at large on the chat rooms. Why infidelity increased ? It's not only man cheats woman but vice versa all sort of things happen ? It's the problem with one's ownself. When there are so many real people around us to be made as friends , these depressed people sits in chat rooms to tell their own stories or abuse other chatters , in other means , they are so incapable of facing their life realities and lack courage to face life , therefore they feel so good abusing others on chat room. This indirectly contributes to other sort of social illness such as lost of parental control , teen problems and adultery. When a grown up man or woman does this , it means a sign of danger to one's ownself and family.
Life is after all is a very precious event of survival. Every minute is valuable , to be cherished with family , friends and good people around us. We live by our own decision.Let us build a brigde of love with everyone , pay mutual respect , lending a helping hand , for I believe in the hindu saying "Yatho Dharma Statho Jayah" , in other words , the world is like a boomerang , we get what we give, ! Let us live in peace , happiness and joy , not betray anyone and be honest to ourselves. The world is a better , fuller heaven when we realize the essence of living.
